What now

At this point in my life I am trying to take things slow and reevaluate my situation (because that is what is has become). Today I had little if nothing at all to say and I was simply taking in the things around me. So my husband decided that (because in the past) this meant I was angry. Sad but true yet as soon as I open my mouth I am snapped at and told that I am being angry when I was simply using a normal tone to make a suggestion. Well I went forward because I am tired of my past actions (which he negatively enforced) making it seem like people can read me. I am through I just want to be able to be and not be worried about "am I to quiet or to loud" I JUST WANNA BE ME!!!